Are you giving yourself enough grace?
It’s that one thing that all coaches talk about. It’s that thing that deep down we know we are doing but we still continue to do it. It’s that one thing that if you just started doing less of, you would probably be able to believe in yourself more and be a happier, more fulfilled person.
When was the last time you truly gave yourself grace when you felt like you dropped the ball? As a coach for moms looking to build confidence in the post-partum phase, the feeling of beating ourselves up for not doing something perfectly is all too common. Internally, we already feel like we should be doing everything perfectly (even when we are running on little to no sleep) and externally, social media isn’t doing us any favours.
We live in a world that speaks to the importance of mental health, yet social media is filled with all the things you should and shouldn’t do as a mom. How do we compete with the perfect instagram mom? We don’t. We stop comparing and give ourselves grace instead. Our children are not looking for perfection. What does a perfect mom teach them? That they are not allowed to fail. Instead, our children need to see us fail and watch how we repair. They need to know that it is okay to make mistakes and understand that we are learning alongside them.
So let 2024 be the year that you, whether you are a mom or not, give yourself more grace in the moments you feel like you’ve ‘dropped the ball’. Every single one of us is just learning. No one gets it right all the time.
If you are struggling with this, here are three quick ways to give yourself grace in the moment:
Recognize negative self talk as soon as it appears and press pause
Rephrase the way you speak to yourself. Giving yourself grace means not judging yourself in the moment. Instead treat yourself with the same compassion you would treat a friend. Maybe you reacted a certain way because you didn’t get enough sleep or you’re in the post-partum phase and feeling overwhelmed. Being compassionate with yourself will immediately soften the negativity and allow you to treat yourself with less emotion and more logic.
Repair the situation. No one gets it perfect the first time. But you can always repair any situation. Sometimes all it takes is doing things differently the next time or even simply apologizing. From toddlers to adults, everyone feels seen, heard and more connected to you after you’ve addressed a situation that caused tension.
As we proceed into 2024, let’s aim to be more compassionate with ourselves and others. Let’s leave the judgment at the door and give ourselves and others the grace we deserve. If you are in the post-partum phase and feel like you could use a confidence boost, message me and let’s chat!